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Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
Experiencing heightened fear and overwhelm to real or perceived rejection is highly distressing for many neurodivergent people. Yet receiving a no and encountering different desires and limits is part of being in a relationship. Here’s how you can cope with it.
What is Kink? Exploring Kink with a Sexologist
From bondage and dominance/submission to role-playing and sensory play, kink can offer a broad range of experiences that enhance intimacy and self-expression. However, jumping head first into the world of kink can sometimes seem overwhelming or intimidating, this is where a sexologist can be an invaluable guide.
How To Deal with Sexual Rejection
Exploring the stories we tell ourselves about rejection and our worth, why being turned down hurts so much and how to deal with sexual rejection.
Overthinking shuts down sex and pleasure: a case study
Exploring how to navigate thoughts that get in the way of pleasure through a case study in sex therapy.
How do I access my desires when I don't know what I want?
Where did the idea come from that people should be experts at sex, to know exactly what they want before they’ve ever tried it and to communicate this with confidence? You can’t tell how good something is going to taste before you’ve tasted it, so why do we hold unrealistic expectations of ourselves when it comes to sex?
How do we navigate a relationship when one partners libido is much lower than anothers?
It’s common for partners to have differences in desire, something that most people in partnerships will experience at some point. While this difference is normal, few of us taught how to navigate it and the feelings that arise with it, contributing to growing anxiety, distress, resentment, avoidance and sometimes even the end of a relationship.
Painful Sex: Understanding Why Painful Penetration Occurs & What Can Help
Pain during penetrative sex or the fear of painful penetration can impact anyone, in diverse ways, with numerous different contributing factors. When all people in a relationship are working to address painful penetration together, and when those people can access resources to understand and begin to address causes of painful sex, positive outcomes are possible.
Is It Possible To Change your Desire?
Is it possible to adapt your sexuality or shift your desire so it’s a better fit within your relationship? Or is there a more helpful approach to reducing desire related distress in relationships?
Online Sex Therapy: What To Expect And How To Make The Most Of It
What do expect from sex therapy? Finding the right therapist and right mode of support can be a challenge. Here’s what you can expect from online sex therapy and how to make the most of it.
Body Image, Sex and Pleasure
It’s no surprise that how you feel about your appearance can significantly impact your wellbeing, mental health and your sex life.
How Masturbation Could Improve Your Sex Life
If you’ve ever struggled to experience pleasure during sex, find sex uncomfortable or awkward or have yet to experience an orgasm, it makes sense why you might not feel like partnered sex or why you may experience a lower sexual desire. Prioritising self-pleasure can be an effective way to exploring your sexuality and reigniting your sex life.
Attracted to Someone Based On Their Race or Body Type?
How dating preferences, attraction and the porn industry mirror and maintain systems of oppression.
7 Ways to Deal With The Pain of Sexual Shame
Shame leaves people feeling like they’re not good enough, they’re selfish or unworthy and undeserving of pleasure. Given the seriousness of shame, why aren’t we talking about it? Why aren’t we challenging it? And why do so many of us trying to deal with our suffocating shame alone?
How To Have Better Solo Sex in Masturbation May
Whatever you call it, masturbation is something that’s an important part of many folx lives - whether it’s out in the open or behind closed doors.