Imagine having pleasurable, embodied and shame-free sex, if and when you want to.
Sexology, somatic sex coaching and embodied counselling for individuals and relationships in Hawthorn, Melbourne/Naarm and online.
Supporting you to reconnect with pleasure, intimacy and a more satisfying sex life
Talking about sex, what you want, your limits, intimacy, pleasure, sexuality and your body might feel challenging, exhausting or overwhelming. We all impacted by the societies we live in that are sex-negative and oppressive; that lead us to become disembodied and disconnected from ourselves or that get in the way of pleasure, safety and choice. These same societies and systems deprive folks of accurate and inclusive sexual education then shift that responsibility to individuals to solve the problems this creates on their own, in isolation. So, it makes sense if you’re feeling lost or confused when it comes to sex and relationships and looking for support to better understand yourself, feel more pleasure or have more choice.
It can be hard to reach out, so we’re glad you’re here. We’re an inclusive and progressive sex therapy and sex coaching supportive service and we’ve supported hundreds of people to navigate and build different relationships to sex and sexuality, in collaborative and non-judgemental ways.
When you feel ready to talk and want to expand your curiosity and awareness about what’s going on for you and create more choice, tap the button below to book your initial session with one of our practitioners, either in person or online.
We support individuals, couples and people in monogamous and non-monogamous relationships to intentionally work towards making realistic and accessible changes they want to see overtime, sustainably.
We offer an affirming, inclusive, person-centred sex therapy and sex coaching to explore and help you better understand what you’re experiencing, support you to identify and practice embodied practices, social and emotional relational skills, find practical tools and strategies that actually make a difference.
Most importantly, we’re collaborative and we work intentionally, so that we’re supporting you in the ways you want to be supported and help you to access more pleasure, more choice and agency and address barriers that are keeping you stuck.
How can sexual support help?
Hey I’m Kass
I’m a queer, neurodivergent sexologist and embodied counsellor and the founder and director of Pleasure Centred Sexology. I work with an incredible team of highly skilled somatic sex and relationship practitioners who draw from their expansive professional backgrounds and their lived experience to support folks to navigate their sexual concerns with more choice and agency. Our team of sex and relationship practitioners are neuroaffirming, disability and queer inclusive.
Areas we support
Sexual desire and sexual function
Lower or higher libido
Sexual desire changes
Orgasm difficulties
Anorgasmia
Erectile dysfunction and difficulties
Early ejaculation / premature ejaculation
Sexuality and gender
Asexuality and Aromance spectrum
Exploring changing identity and queerness
Different relationship structures (non-monogamy, relationship anarchy)
Gender affirming exploration and support
Relationship challenges
Mismatched libido
Navigating relational conflict
Initiating sex
Giving and receiving a no
Creating and sustaining your erotic fire
Unwanted pain
Genital or pelvic pain
Chronic pain
Chronic illness
Vaginismus
Vestibulodynia
Dyspareunia
Stress and sexual trauma
Fear
Anxiety
Shame
Fear of rejection
Rejection sensitivity
Sexual trauma
Sexual education & skills
Sexual skills
Dating, intimacy and new relationship skills
Consent skills
How to touch
Communication
Genital/sexual anatomy
Kink & BDSM
Tantra
Meet our team
All sessions at Pleasure Centred Sexology are co-created, person-centred, affirming and as safe and accessible as we can make them. All our sex and relationship practitioners work from a pleasure-centred framework and value consent, anti-oppressive, disability-justice and trauma-informed practice.
We support people to centre their pleasure and their lived experience by working somatically - through developing skills to intentionally place awareness into different aspects of the body, with curiosity, so that more choice and new perspectives can emerge. Together we have supported hundreds of individuals & people in relationships to develop curiosity, to grow in their ability to be present, to feel more, to access pleasure, to recognise their wants and limits, to unlearn sociocultural and political narratives that no longer serve them and relearn ones that do.
Kass (she/her)
Sex and Relationship therapist, Sexologist, Director and Founder of Pleasure Centred Sexology
Ari (she/her)
Certified Somatic Sex Coach, Registered Nurse & Pleasure Centred Sexology’s Admin Assistant
Coby Baker (she/her)
Sexologist
Why choose to work with us?
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Non-pathologising
We take a non medical, non treatment based approach to care. We're not here to diagnose you with sexual dysfunction because we believe there is an over medicalisation of sexual concerns. Instead, we take a systems perspective and recognise that often sexual concerns arise in response to systemic and societal contexts like the absence of accurate sex ed and our social ideas of the normal/abnormal binary. With care, accurate education and ongoing support, you can learn skills, build awareness and have more choice to navigate sexual concerns in a different way. You are not broken so you don’t need to be fixed.
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Centering Pleasure
We focus on supporting you to better understand what kind of relationship you want with pleasure, what's in the way of that and what you can do to experience more (if you want to). We recognise that pleasure is central to physical, mental and emotional wellbeing yet recognise the pleasure disparity and the ways that pleasure is political.
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Inclusive lens
We are shame and judgement free in our approach. We go to the core of the issue and try to understand the intersecting factors contributing to the reasons you're seeking support. We are affirming to LGBTQIA+, sex workers, disabled and neurodivergent people, people in larger bodies and fat folks, Aboriginal, Black and Brown people, we are polyaffirming and support all types of relationships.
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Intentional, purposeful and highly skilled
Our work is focused and we remember the long term and short term goals that are important to you. Yet often a session will unfold in non linear ways. This means while you might be here to explore and be supported in your experience of sex, intimacy or relationships, you’re also free to talk about interconnected issues like emotions, grief, work stress, big life decisions, family dynamics, activism, political issues, relationship breakups. We're also highly skilled practitioners, engaging in regular professional development and frequent supervision to keep us accountable and constantly growing in our expertise.
What people who have worked with us are saying
“My experience working with Kass has been extremely positive and informative. She has been the second sexologist I have seen after having an extremely bad experience prior. Kass makes me feel comfortable, seen and heard.”
“Kass has allowed me to set every session's pace, tone and focus. I have learnt about my tendency to avoid somatic awareness, which Kass has gently encouraged through curiosity and exploration. Each session feels very organic, while Kass manages to keep track of themes, provide summaries and, at times, additional resources. Thank you for your support!
“Kassandra's warmth and kindness made me feel instantly at ease. I feel safe to discuss absolutely anything with her, knowing that anything I say will be received with no judgement, just compassion and support. During sessions, Kassandra is so attentive with checking in how I'm feeling as different issues and emotions arise, and giving me options to increase my comfort and ease in that moment. She listens so patiently to me and validates my experiences. Kassandra's approach to sessions is very collaborative, and we negotiate what the focus and goals of each session will be. I really appreciate the readings and resources she always sends after each session, so that I can learn more and try out strategies that might help. As an added bonus, I love being able to book or reschedule my appointments online through her website at any time of day or night, without needing to make a phone call.”
“Challenging, uncomfortable, vulnerable and worthwhile. There have been more times that not where I’ve been scared to show up to sessions but then I did and It was ok. It helped me to have resources, practices and homework each session. I liked that we could move around or lay on the floor. I liked that Kass shared parts of herself and didn’t pretend she knew everything.”
“Kassandra is warm and friendly, she provided me with a comfortable non-judgemental safe space and has managed to help me tackle and work through my fears, insecurities & biases. Kassandra has championed for me and my body and encouraged me to listen to what my body is telling me, whilst providing guidance on how to do that. She has garnered me new perspectives and given me helpful suggestions on how to go about safely pushing my comfort zone which allowed me to meet some of the goals I had set out for myself. I have and will continue to recommend her for family & friends.”
“Transformative! Kass is supportive, engaging and challenging, and has helped me connect with myself, my body and what feels good, unlocking an infinite capacity to experience pleasure in the everyday and the exceptional. I am alive with more energy, creativity and excitement.”
“Kass is such a beautiful soul and I could not be more grateful for her. She has helped me reconnect with my body in ways I didn't even know I could and develop the confidence to speak up about my own needs in both challenging and intimate conversations. She is kind, warm and gentle and looks at situations or difficulties I am having with curiosity. I was so nervous before seeing Kass (for a number of reasons) but I now genuinely look forward to my sessions with her, knowing that she'll take me as I am on the day and welcome my concerns with open arms and ears.”
“Kass is a superb counsellor who tailors her guidance to an individual's issue. You immediately feel comfortable talking about your most intimate concerns. She is always non-judgmental and honest and discusses your concerns in a straightforward and clear manner. I am learning to experience the more painful times with the confidence that they will pass. I looked hard to find a counsellor that I could trust and I found one with Kass.”
“This is the best thing I have ever done! The session was informative, relaxed and absolutely on topic, allowing me to begin to release negative old behaviours and embrace a new connectedness within myself.”
“I love the collaborative approach to therapy that Kass allows me to navigate. She allows me as her client to lead the direction, giving me plenty of options for exploration in a variety of ways. In working with Kass the hardest of my own challenges, connecting with my body, has become an easier journey to undertake. With her guidance, support and expertise I have been able to reflect, feel, process and be held not only within the experiences of trauma but also imagine a new future with a deeper understanding of who I am. In the world I often wonder if I am understood, yet with Kass she takes the patient and curious approach to see me. Therapy with Kass has been a safe space full of a range of emotions. I am unabashed in her presence able to open up chests deep inside myself in which I would unable to approach without her. Working with Kass has been one of the greatest privileges of my life thus far. Her kindness, intelligence and warmth shines through in every session.”
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